Thursday, January 7, 2016

Derek The Homeless Man, and How I Felt Obligated To Him

Today in Global we discussed the idea of Universe of Obligation, and how many people feel like they will do deeds, but often will not ever complete those deeds. Here, I would like to talk about a time, my girlfriend and I felt obligated to help someone in need. We were in Downtown Mountain View, nearing an ending street, just outside of Tapioca Express (a dive that serves pearl tea and a variety of different cuisines). As we were about to enter the building, we were accosted by someone who seemed to have been waiting out in the cold for hours, and presumably had no one to talk to. He said his name was Derek, and that no one had even stopped to talk to him at all since he was waiting outside by himself. The man, standing in front of the rather minute but well furnished establishment, was not asking for money, or any sort of handout. Instead, he was asking merely for a meal, something he said he had not had in a very long time. I don't think I could be able to quote him exactly, but It was something like; "People have been walking by me all night, all I needed was a bite to eat man...". Seeing him in his condition, my girlfriend and I decided to take him into the warm eatery, and buy him two bags of mild crispy chicken, and sat and ate with him for about an hour. As it turned out, he was kicked out of his apartment recently by his housemate, and had been living on the street for about a week or so, but very rarely within the week had had a decent meal. As we were leaving, he hugged both of us, and said that we were true blessings on his life. I believe that is what really stuck with me about Derek, maybe I do not know his full story, but I still wonder why no one felt the obligation to help him. I do not speak for all homeless individuals, or any homeless community in general. But, if someone is asking for food, and an hour of your time, why not change their world, just for a little while?

6 comments:

  1. Wow, this is truly inspiring. What an amazing thing you and your girlfriend did for him, Caden. I don't know if I would have done the same if I was in your position, but this was certainly truly eye opening.

    I grew up learning that you should only help people on the street who are physically disabled and ignore the people who aren't. I was taught that those people are just too lazy to find a job or such. I think I have lived most of my life under that standard my family had taught me to live.

    However, like I said above, this is truly eye opening. You really do not know what the person's situation is, and it is truly unfair to just assume they are lazy. I realize that there are many things I should stop doing and start doing.

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  2. That's awesome Caden. It really can make a difference to stop and even say hi or give someone a few dollars. A little bit of time can make a huge difference in someone else's life.

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  3. Thats so great to hear Caden. I always think to myself when I watch videos on Facebook were people dont help a homeless man and it irritates me. I always say that I would help them, but honestly its rarely that I do. Its great to know theres people like you in the world that actually try to help out and make a signifacant difference in peoples life even if its for a short period of time.

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  4. I have a rule of thumb in situations like this. If I'm in a position to be able to get someone a meal, I will do that. I rarely give money to homeless people because I have no idea where/ how that money is spent and I wouldn't want my money to be used to buy liquor or drugs or other substances that further exacerbate the person's inability to stabilize his/her life. What you chose to do was above and beyond the call of duty Caden. If everyone in the world was even half as compassionate as you are, we would live in a very different kind of world.

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  5. Helping someone in need is always a good feeling. If I was put into this situation I would much rather buy them food as you did, rather then giving them money because who knows what they would spend that money on. I have seen videos on Facebook of people mistreating homeless people and down talking on them just because they are homeless, which is terrible to hear. Its nice to know there are nice people in this world.

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  6. Helping someone in need is always a good feeling. If I was put into this situation I would much rather buy them food as you did, rather then giving them money because who knows what they would spend that money on. I have seen videos on Facebook of people mistreating homeless people and down talking on them just because they are homeless, which is terrible to hear. Its nice to know there are nice people in this world.

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